I’ll help you see that being yourself doesn’t need to be scary .

You strive to make everyone else happy.

Helping the people you care about means a lot to you! On the surface you seem happy, caring, and kind. But deep down you are crumbling inside. You’ll say yes to anyone to avoid the uncomfortableness of disappointing them. And now you notice that some resentment is starting to build. You’re spending a lot of your time tending to the needs of others, while your own needs go neglected. You’re actually not even sure what you want or need anymore. It seems as though your voice has gotten lost somewhere along the way and it makes you uncomfortable that you feel resentful. You wonder what it means about you as a person if you feel this way. Afterall, saying yes is just being a nice person. Does it make you selfish to want to say no?

All this work, but deep down, you don’t feel connected to anyone.

At this point, you’re used to showing people the version of you that they want to see. You’re polite and agreeable, and you’ll risk a little white lie to keep everyone around you comfortable. The bigger risk would be the rejection you’d face if people knew the real you. The you that sometimes needs a break from people. The you that would rather sit at home, downing your favorite pint of Ben&Jerry’s than train for that marathon your friend dragged you into. Or the you who doesn’t always agree with what people around you are saying. The truth is, your need to feel close to others is only met when you unconditionally give yourself to others. And it doesn’t feel like true connection. You’re exhausted, drained, and you leave social interactions feeling empty-handed. At the end of the day, you know something is off.